Buyer's Remorse

[RavensEyeOffroad]

try this, why not ask them to join you on a beautiful day trip through the backwoods with a peaceful picnic

Read their post again and you will find out why they cant do that...
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[bgenlvtex]

Read their post again and you will find out why they cant do that...
O_o

Pretty sure he is referring to the survivors

 

[RavensEyeOffroad]

Suck it up Dude! Get in that Jeep; go find some place 5 miles deep in the woods where you’re all alone, and let him/her go! You will both be better for it!
P.S. Sorry for your loss.

Pretty sure he is referring to the survivors

Hopefully.

 

[bgenlvtex]

Hopefully.

Yeah , that's a different quote and a little harsh

 

[Slojo]

A lot of good perspectives. What ever you do whether it is monetary support, emotional and morale support or a combination of both your friend will appreciate. Friends always know who is around when times are tough and where their true values lie.
Best wishes and prayers to all.

 

[spartacus777]

What I think we should all do to help our fellow brother and this family is can we set up a fund and help this family? I think this will help our brother a bit knowing that his friends family has something too. I will throw in $100. who is next?

Coming from a very poor country I know the feeling brother. It can sometimes seem a bit much when we have so much and others do not and others are dealing with so much but you must give perspective to everything. For me, the way I deal with it is to give, which helps the burden a little bit. It is OK to feel how you feel! It actually means you are alive and you are human and have a heart! The way to get out of it is to give something to that family too and you can count me in if you are willing to do so and if others on here are willing to help. Hang in there brother and let me know.

 

[Troybilt]

Laura is the name of the OP. I have a aunt Laura not a uncle Laura.

 

[salvino]

You struck a nerve with me on this one. Got my LE on September 1. Found out last Friday one of my best friends, 64 yo, has brain cancer and will almost certainly not survive long.

He got out of the hospital Saturday and we went over to see him. He looks very old and needs assistance walking down stairs, etc. He wanted to see the LE, went down to the street and jumped right in, 2"lift and 37s with no steps. We went for a ride and it seemed to bring him great joy.

Do what you can to help the family. If that means selling the Gladiator then so be it. If you can help without selling it, I'm sure your friend would say, "I'm gone, all the more reason to live your life to the fullest."

 

[Trickster]

Regardless of what you do, nothing will bring your friend back.
I too am having the worst year of my life this year with losses of life as well.
My take is to sell the JT, help the family, and go from there.
There will be many other times in the future to own another, but NOW is the
time to help the family through their loss and financial difficulties.
In my opinion, you have already stated the obvious, that the Jeep is
only making you feel guilty and you won't enjoy it.
Rid yourself of the guilt and sell it.
You will figure it out, it takes time to heal.
My 2 cents.
Rick

 

[RavensEyeOffroad]

@JeepDreams
Just wondering what you were thinking. It's been a while on this thread and was just wondering if you have had time to reflect on the responses.

 

[JeepDreams]

Hi again,

Thank you all for letting me think out loud here. Wasn't looking for a therapist - just an opportunity to share my thoughts and feelings mixed up with my new JT.

I appreciate your words of support - and I've taken some of your suggestions to heart. Unfortunately none of my friend's family are local, so I'm thinking long distance. I will keep the JT. I will reach out to my friend's daughter and ask about setting up college funds for her two boys. If she already has that in place, I'll add to it. My goal is to donate the cost of the truck, although it may take me a little while. I think Dresden would like this solution - a win/win. She would have loved the JT and adored her Whipper Snappers (grandsons). Coincidentally, one of the boys is named "JT".

Thank you VERY much to the folks who reached out via pm. You were especially kind. And generous.
_____

I took "Ruby", my JT, out on Saturday. Her maiden voyage was over the hill to Santa Cruz. (I live near San Jose, California.) Took a girlfriend of mine - the truck turned heads all through Santa Cruz and Capitola. Gorgeous day and we made some sweet memories. I shared about my friend, Dresden, who died, and let the ocean breeze take away some of my sadness.

Thanks, People. You've got good hearts.
Laura aka JeepDreams

 

[RavensEyeOffroad]

Hi again,

Thank you all for letting me think out loud here. Wasn't looking for a therapist - just an opportunity to share my thoughts and feelings mixed up with my new JT.

I appreciate your words of support - and I've taken some of your suggestions to heart. Unfortunately none of my friend's family are local, so I'm thinking long distance. I will keep the JT. I will reach out to my friend's daughter and ask about setting up college funds for her two boys. If she already has that in place, I'll add to it. My goal is to donate the cost of the truck, although it may take me a little while. I think Dresden would like this solution - a win/win. She would have loved the JT and adored her Whipper Snappers (grandsons). Coincidentally, one of the boys is named "JT".

Thank you VERY much to the folks who reached out via pm. You were especially kind. And generous.
_____

I took "Ruby", my JT, out on Saturday. Her maiden voyage was over the hill to Santa Cruz. (I live near San Jose, California.) Took a girlfriend of mine - the truck turned heads all through Santa Cruz and Capitola. Gorgeous day and we made some sweet memories. I shared about my friend, Dresden, who died, and let the ocean breeze take away some of my sadness.

Thanks, People. You've got good hearts.
Laura aka JeepDreams

That sounds great. I'm glad things are looking up.

 

[Airmousam]

 

[wannajeep]

Things like grief, mental health or PTSD are real and can really mess with you.

Don't let the timing fool you. If you bought the same rig five years ago, would you be feeling the same level of guilt?

The two events aren't related. Enjoy fond memories of your best friend, and do the same with your Jeep. No rush, just ease into it. And enjoy the manual transmission

 

[DesertRat]

I will share a little story with you...

Back in 2000 my wife started having heart problems. I won’t go into all the details but it was a very rare form of Atrial Fibrulation. We went from one cardiologist to another all who said they could fix it but never did.

During this time my wife almost died twice in the ER ...very scary. Once she passed out taking our sons to school and fortunately our 8 year old son grabbed the steering wheel to bring the Grand Cherokee to the side of the road...2001 and 2002 were bad years for us...

My wife was loosing hope...she loved our two sons and me but was getting depressed that she might not live long enough to see them grow up...

Then we found a young cardiologist at the University of Virginia Medical Center who was able to correctly diagnose the situation. At the time there were only 4 physicians in the country who could perform the procedure....two in Boston who developed the procedure, on in CA and him...

We had the procedure scheduled for February 2003 but that was months away...during the 2002 Christmas I told her that we would take a long vacation to Europe the following Summer and as a momento of our trip we would be bringing home either a Mercedes Benz or Porsche of her choice...this gave her something to think about other than her health.

We had the procedure done and it was a complete success. The day she was discharged she asked me if we could stop at the Porsche dealer and test drive a car! Sure is all I could say...She could barely walk but picked out a Boxster S and off we went. She loved how the car handled and asked me to drop the top which I did. It was 27 degrees outside but she loved it. She said this was the car and to make sure we get heated seats...

Well we still have that car and we will never sell it.

The moral of the story is that life is short and you need to make the best of what you have and enjoy life...your JT is a way for you to enjoy life..

Hope that helps..

And that is exactly why we have Jeeps, Gladiators, fun cars. You should never buy these things at the expense of sound financial decisions, however we are all going to grow old and die. I myself just had a heart procedure to correct a super ventricular tachycardia condition while training for a 100 mile cycling ride. I am/was in very good physical condition. And then there I was laying on a table in a cath-lab for six hours.

I can name several co-workers younger than I that have died either in accidents, or sudden illnesses. These as well as other events have given me sort of an epiphany. We are well off admittedly, but I spent most of my life hoarding my money and even worse making stupid decisions since I am so dang greedy. I've decided to live life outside of work and enjoy it. My wife and I have re-discovered camping and backpacking. We have done 4 trips in the last three months and am going to get an off-road trailer.

If you can afford it, it is not taking away from your retirement savings in a meaningful way, not taking away from your ability to provide for your family, enjoy it.

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