One thing I do is take off the plug that is attached to the kick panel. This way I can hold both harness in my hand and place them together as straight as possible.Is there a side loading issue here? Im old sore and overweight. On the passenger side i noticed as i reconnect i was putting more pressure on the rear side of the connector. Which i guess could flex it all enough that the foward pins are pushing around the female port. Trying to be more careful with the connectors now. I also wish there was a cover for the connector ends unplugged. I live in salty air.