Buyer's Remorse

[JeepDreams]

First thing: please don't hate on me or beat me up. This is tough enough as it is...

I ordered a beautiful Red JT back in early May. Almost all the bells and whistles. Manual transmission. Seriously my dream truck.

Joined you all on the ordering roller coaster... yet as time passed, I began to think I shouldn't get this thing. But I ordered a custom plate and began to order small stuff like seat covers, etc. Excitement waxing and waning...

Then my best friend dies - leaving her family without their bread winner - and me feeling lost and alone. (Sorry to talk about feelings on a Jeep forum.) And feeling really uncomfortable spending this kind of money on a toy.

It finally came in. I agonized. And then I bought it as planned.

But, people, it is sitting in my garage. 36 miles on it. Got it 2 months ago? It brings me no joy. I feel guilty having it. I don't really want to drive it. I feel like a fool for spending all that money.

Serious buyer's remorse.

Has anyone felt this way?

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[lux]

Sorry about your friend. It sounds like you are going through a rough time now. At the end of the day, people are more important than possessions. The purpose of life isn’t to collect more stuff but to help others. Maybe sell the Gladiator and use some of the money to help your friend’s family. I hope you can find some peace.

 

[Trippin01]

Well, I hope you can work through it. Kinda sounds like Survivors Guilt, totally understandable. A traumatic event in anyone's life can make a person re-evaluate whats most important. Been there, but its still apart of me in some ways. I hope you get it sorted out and spend more time with the people that matter to you. When it comes right down to it, the JT is just a "Thing" or toy, as you put it. Best of luck to you.

 

[RavensEyeOffroad]

If you could talk to your friend about this what would they say?
"How dare you spend that money!"
Or
"We talked about this and it's ok, enjoy your life."

You bought this to make memories. Put something on it so when you drive you remember your friend each time.

 

[WXman]

Buyers remorse hits a lot of people even without traumatic experiences on the side. Spending that much money is a tough pill to swallow. Throw a sad event on top of it and I'm sure it's rough.

But...what I've learned in my short 40 years is that time is the ultimate healer. Time heals a lot of wounds.

Since you already have the truck, keep it and give yourself more time to grieve and heal. Like he said ^^^ put a decal or something else on or in the truck so that when you drive it you remember your friend. Eventually I bet you'll find joy in the purchase again and you'll be glad you kept it. And it'll be the thing that actually makes you always remember your friend.

 

[smlobx]

I will share a little story with you...

Back in 2000 my wife started having heart problems. I won’t go into all the details but it was a very rare form of Atrial Fibrulation. We went from one cardiologist to another all who said they could fix it but never did.

During this time my wife almost died twice in the ER ...very scary. Once she passed out taking our sons to school and fortunately our 8 year old son grabbed the steering wheel to bring the Grand Cherokee to the side of the road...2001 and 2002 were bad years for us...

My wife was loosing hope...she loved our two sons and me but was getting depressed that she might not live long enough to see them grow up...

Then we found a young cardiologist at the University of Virginia Medical Center who was able to correctly diagnose the situation. At the time there were only 4 physicians in the country who could perform the procedure....two in Boston who developed the procedure, on in CA and him...

We had the procedure scheduled for February 2003 but that was months away...during the 2002 Christmas I told her that we would take a long vacation to Europe the following Summer and as a momento of our trip we would be bringing home either a Mercedes Benz or Porsche of her choice...this gave her something to think about other than her health.

We had the procedure done and it was a complete success. The day she was discharged she asked me if we could stop at the Porsche dealer and test drive a car! Sure is all I could say...She could barely walk but picked out a Boxster S and off we went. She loved how the car handled and asked me to drop the top which I did. It was 27 degrees outside but she loved it. She said this was the car and to make sure we get heated seats...

Well we still have that car and we will never sell it.

The moral of the story is that life is short and you need to make the best of what you have and enjoy life...your JT is a way for you to enjoy life..

Hope that helps..

 

[RSK]

I take a different perspective after losing both parents and hope this helps you. I remember my dad telling me near the end “life is short and goes by fast, so make time to enjoy it”. That is how I try to live my life and make time for what gives me enjoyment. After family, the Jeep gives me something I enjoy and lifestyle that is about having a little fun. It’s a thing/toy, but opens many doors to meet people I would have never talked to before. It keeps my mind sharp and innovative with changes I make. There is so much negativity in the world and you have to find that little escape to keeps us all moving and positive.

Don’t feel survivors guilt, move past it in your on time and start enjoying your life and what you have around you. It’s a tough time for you, but I assure you things will get better and I hope you find enjoyment and happiness soon.

 

[RavensEyeOffroad]

JeepDreams, I think what alot of us are trying to say is that your feelings are rational and normal. But also that you really just need a hug and to be told "its ok" and it really is. It is ok hun.

 

[BLK HOLE]

Shouldn't feel guilty living your life. Let it sit until you heal....the cobwebs will remove then.

 

[LongTimeListener]

I'm very sorry about your friend. On the Jeep, give it six months and see where you're at. Consider going and having some badass adventures in your Jeep in your friend's honor.

 

[Digger70]

Why don't you just use your new JT as a device to bring joy back into your life and your friend's family? Take them on excursions in your JT. Take off the doors and top and explore what Cali has to offer. Or sell it and give the money to her family to help pay for the funeral expenses etc

 

[Oilburner]

Do some research on mourning, try to understand what you are emotionally going through. Hopefully you have family to reach out to also.

About the Jeep, I may be out of line but I am pretty sure your buddy would not want you to sell it = in fact he would want you to enjoy it. As others have said, give yourself time. Maybe you can find joy with your JT & new Jeep'n friends one day.

Hang in there -

 

[Capt. B]

If you could talk to your friend about this what would they say?
"How dare you spend that money!"
Or
"We talked about this and it's ok, enjoy your life."

You bought this to make memories. Put something on it so when you drive you remember your friend each time.

Great sentiment. Agree 100%.

 

[wyldefreebyrd]

As others have said, try to see the joy having a Jeep can bring. Here in Houston there have been several fund raisers involving Jeeps and "monster trucks" as some kids see them. Yes you may have spent more on the JT than another vehicle but in the end it is something you will always remember be it good or bad memories. My two girls love the Jeep and both say that is what they want when they can drive, they enjoy going wheeling and riding with the doors and top off. Driving 'naked' is an experience like no other and something we like to do as often as possible.

 

[Yellow1098]

Hiiiii....I just want to say to you! There are so few things in this life that make us happy...and when you find them enjoy the hell out of them....if you love your jeep and it makes you happy keep it...because your friend would want you to be happy that is for sure! A lot of us have trouble finding things that make us happy so when you find something hold on to it....we have all been in your position ...as you know I have been there way to often...I definitely have things in honor of my friends and family that I have lost...nothing can replace them but live life for them which means happiness

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